An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.
Proverbs 24:26
At a church near our home in Seattle, a Japanese couple that had recently arrived in the States, was getting married. Despite their limited exposure to western customs, the American-style wedding went well.
But when the minister invited the couple to kiss, nothing happened. Surprised, the minister turned to the bride and said, “How about a little kiss?” Not wanting to offend, she shyly leaned forward and kissed the minister!
She’s not the first bride to be confused by kissing. A kiss can mean different things at different times – good morning, good bye, I missed you, I’m sorry, I love you, I’m in the mood, and so on.
But perhaps the sweetest of all kisses is the good night kiss that says I’m going to be missing you even while I sleep. Remember when you were dating each other and how difficult it was to say good night after a date? You’d say goodnight countless times with just as many kisses.
“People who throw kisses are hopelessly lazy.”
–Bob Hope
Poets and lyricists have done their best to capture the magic and mystery of a kiss. But we think a brief line from the book of Proverbs says it best: “An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.”
Solomon, in all his wisdom, equaled a kiss on the lips to an honest answer. When we are kissing our spouse on the lips, especially as a way to say good night, we are conveying our honest feelings. It’s a kind of lover’s short hand to the questions we rarely articulate but deeply feel:
- Do you still love me, in spite of all the mistakes I make?
- Do you still want to be with me when I burn the toast, leave my clothes on the floor, and all the rest?
A kiss on the lips is a way of honestly answering in the affirmative these unspoken questions.
So give kissing some special consideration. Don’t take it for granted. “Soul meets soul on lovers’ lips,” says poet Percy Bysshe Selley. So don’t kiss flippantly. Give one another a real good kiss and then enjoy the intimacy of a couple whose love is as honest as their hearts.
Reflect and Respond
Where and when was your most memorable kiss as a married couple? Or when do kisses matter most to you?
Go ahead, tell us in the comments.
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Sadly I cannot recall at this moment my most memorable married kiss… I will think about that for a while!
But my favorite where and when: I always love kitchen kisses. Thankfully I get them a lot. Not big kisses but that extra second or two that shows he likes me 🙂 I like for the kids to see that too for an example of what to look for (or be like) when they are older. I wish them a spouse that does the same. And my husband always kisses me (when I’m asleep) before he goes to work. I just realized I do not do the same to him because I don’t know if it matters as much to him… maybe I should ask!
Sheri: Kitchen kisses! Love it! You’ve got a good man.
This is a wonderful post & so on time. I feel as if God is speaking to me. Let me explain. My husband & I started a marriage ministry in our home in 2007. We meet once a month for 2 hours to review biblical & practical principles about marriage. We end the night by drawing a homework card to complete for our spouse before the next month’s meeting. This past Sunday my homework was to “kiss my spouse, really kiss him”…. & then I read this post today! God is so awesome!
So I say all of that to say I am not a big kisser, but my husband is and since Sunday (my homework) I have been kissing him every time we’re near each other. I can’t think a most memorable kiss but he still says he gets butterflies in his stomach when we kiss, even after 17 years of marriage!
Thank you Les & Leslie!
Zina: This is so cool. Love God’s timing! And what a compliment to be giving your husband butterflies in his stomach after 17years. Go Zina!
My first kiss
J: That’s always a good one!
My most memorable was the day we told each other “I love you”. We have been married thirty-one years and we kiss often, each morning, and before sleep, when passing in the house and yard, leaving the home and returning…and the best is for “no reason at all”! …just because.
It continues to get better and better…both kisses and the ‘frisky stuff’!
Thank you doctors for caring enough to share with us…
Elizabeth: Thanks for sharing this. And way to keep the “frisky stuff” passionate! 31 years … Congratulations!
My first kiss with my husband was on our wedding day at the alter. So I would have to say that’s the most memorable one for sure! It was hard to wait at times for that kiss…because it’s not the norm in our society. But to make it meaningful and special for us, it was worth the wait, to share that special moment on our wedding day,with my husband!
J: Wow! What a story you two have! Really incredible!
my most memorable kiss is when I used to kiss my son when he was a little baby and during his toddler years. My kisses have not stopped they are few because he is a teenage who doesn’t want mom kissing him in front of his friends. However, I used to grab my son and tickle him and plant kisses all over his face and tummy. oh how he giggled. (big smile on my face)
as an adult, there is one kiss that I have not forgotten… I am not married but there is a man that, well, I have very strong feelings for. We saw each other on occasions, but one night as I was over at his place making us dinner he walked up to me and ever so gently without saying a word he kissed my shoulder. you think I would have other memorable kisses but this one, just leaves me breathless. I can see him so clearly the way he kissed my shoulder.
sadly we are not seeing each other, he has pulled away from me for what he thinks are good reasons. I guess being hurt and used by two other women can leave a mark on a man. I’m in love with this man and I believe I realized I was in love on that very night. I pray that we can someday begin a relationship and experience more memorable kisses as a married couple. and also experience a healthy, loving relationship, for I too was badly hurt in the past.I am not giving up.
Roxie: How sweet with your son. And thanks for sharing your heart. We’ll say a prayer for you today.
First time I kissed my wife I asked her if I could kiss her, she told me that she would be dissapointed if I didn’t.
Randy: Sweet.
I’m grufetal you made the post. It’s cleared the air for me.
thank you for your prayers 🙂
God bless you both!