Since they are no longer two but one, let no one split apart what God has joined together. Matthew 19:6
How is your sex life?
That’s a fair question, isn’t it? After all, sexuality is not a given, something that somehow miraculously takes care of itself once we enter marriage. It needs nurture, tenderness, education and—are you ready for this—religion.
It’s a fact.
Religion, according to some studies, is good for your sex life. As strange as it may sound, there is a strong link in marriage between spirituality and sexuality.
Married couples who cultivate spiritual intimacy are far more likely to report higher satisfaction with their sex life than other couples.
This fact makes sense if you think about it. The mysteries, wonders, and pleasures of sex in marriage are a divine gift to celebrate. Those who try to limit sex to procreation are simply ignoring the Bible.
Scripture — right from the beginning — enthusiastically affirms sex within the bonds of marriage.
What a happy and holy fashion it is that those who love one another should rest on the same pillow. –Nathaniel Hawthorne
Start with the first chapter of the Bible. It contains a magnificent comment on the meaning of sexuality in marriage. As God is bringing the universe into existence we are told that the human creation is set apart from all others, for it is the imago Dei, the image of God: “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them” (Gen. 1:27).
Our maleness and femaleness is not just an accidental arrangement of the human species. Our male and female sexuality is related to our creation in the image of God.
This point is echoed throughout scripture.
And Jesus certainly underscores a high view of sex in marriage when he refers to the Genesis passage and then adds, “So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate” (Matt. 19:6).
In the Old Testament and in the New Testament, in the Gospels and in the Epistles, is found the call to celebrate sexuality in marriage. There is no denying that your spiritual growth helps to enhance your sexual intimacy in marriage.
So, we’ll ask it again. How’s your sex life? We don’t need you to tell us (really, we don’t). But it’s an important question to ask each other from time to time.
Reflect and Respond
Do you agree that healthy sexuality is linked to a vibrant spiritual life? Why or why not?
Go ahead, tell us in the comments.
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growing together spiritually brings a couple closer together and since we are spirit soul and body all 3 work together.
Hello two you both. I have little to no sex life with my wife. Usually she gives me a hand job at best. She is waiting for me to lead better. “Be a better husband”. “Romance me”. I have a lot of issues pursuing her. She had an affair 1 month into our marriage two years ago and I still haven’t found any desire to pursue her. But ofcourse I still want sex. I don’t think I deserve sex but my body still craves sex. Now I found myself desiring other women. Wanting to have sex with them. This is a terrible torture at best. To have wrong desires is not easy to overcome. Especially with so much sex appeal around us today. Please pray for me, that I learn to lay down my life for my wife and that The Holy Spirit helps me with my wrong desires.
Years ago I saw a Christian married couple speak on a Christian TV station. They said their sex life had been okay, but not good. They said since God is everywhere and He sees everything they decided to include prayer in their love making. They began by asking aloud for His blessing on their time together. At the end they thank Him. They said their sex life is now wonderful. My husband and I did this, and now pray for His blessing and thank Him every time. It has been a beautiful change for us. Hoping and praying this is helpful to other Christ loving married couples.
Drs. Les and Leslie are awesome. I learn a lot from their teachings. The only problem i have is i am married to a woman that does not want or enjoy sex. we have been married 15 years and right now we average sex about 4 to 5 times a year. I have tried to tell her that i would like to have more and even got self help books, one from Les and Leslie and she burned them all in the fire. I have wanted to go to counseling but she wont agree to that either. She thinks i just have to deal with it and i cant anymore. what do do you do in that situation? im going crazy!! I hope the Drs. see this post. Maybe they can help. i never thought i would say it but i have thought about divorce. im at the end of my rope!
When you don’t know what genital herpes is and your fiancé tells you this shortly after you propose to her… You forgive what she did and accept her honesty that she wants to love and marry you. When you find out how painful and hellaciouslly itchy these sores get, and you have them for life. They impregnate your DNA and will repopulate on their own… I can’t tell you what goes they my mind when I read all the happiness and descriptive phrases about crazy good sex.
Les and Leslie obviously haven’t addressed this horror that befalls a man – you want to talk about a hinderances to your marriage..?
Hi Arnold. I hope by now you have sought and found medical help. The alternative medicines can also be helpful. With time the virus will settle down and your body will overcome the frequent attacks. Stress and a lowered immune system have a tendency to encourage new flare ups. Using condoms can also help. She was brave enough to tell you and that you must be thankful for. The Lord is our Healer so lift this to Him and He will heal you both. Be blessed.